Actress Ssujata Mehta Critiques Modern Weddings: “Marriages Have Become a Social Media Spectacle”

In a candid conversation, actress Ssujata Mehta, known for her roles in films like Pratighaat, Yateem, Gunahon Ka Devta, and 3 Deewarein, shared her thoughts on the growing trend of extravagant weddings and the shifting priorities surrounding marriage in today’s society. According to Mehta, the increasing focus on lavish weddings often overshadows the true essence of marriage itself, which, she believes, should be about nurturing a lasting relationship rather than merely throwing a grand celebration.

The Shift from Meaningful Commitment to Extravagant Celebrations

Mehta, who has seen firsthand the evolution of wedding culture, argues that while celebrating love is important, the obsession with creating a perfect wedding spectacle can be detrimental. “I love celebrations, but my idea of celebrating marriage is to wait until after five years of being together,” she explains. “A simple and intimate wedding, followed by a celebration if the marriage stands the test of time, is what truly matters.”

In recent years, the actress has observed a growing trend where marriages are becoming shorter-lived, often dissolving within months of tying the knot. She points out that, in the past, even if couples faced challenges, marriages were more likely to endure. Today, however, many unions end unexpectedly, sometimes even before the wedding reception is over. “I’ve even heard of marriages ending right at the mandap,” she adds, expressing concern over the fleeting nature of many modern relationships.

The Pressure of Extravagance and Social Media Influence

According to Mehta, modern weddings have become a social media spectacle, with couples striving to outdo one another in terms of grandeur. “People want their weddings to be the most talked-about event in their community,” she says. The result is a surge in pre-wedding shoots, celebrity-inspired bridal looks, and multi-day celebrations featuring everything from mehndi and sangeet to cocktail parties and post-wedding bashes.

While Mehta acknowledges that there’s nothing wrong with celebrating in style, she is critical of the growing trend of excessive spending and superficiality. “Some parents, especially mothers, who did not have such extravagant weddings themselves, now want to make their children’s weddings a grand affair. They often demand that their daughters’ makeup and styling resemble that of a celebrity, even if it doesn’t align with their natural beauty.”

Mehta also notes the rise in renting costumes, jewelry, and other accessories to create an aura of opulence. While she believes people have the right to celebrate as they wish, she cautions that the true significance of marriage can sometimes be lost in all the fanfare.

The Decline of Traditional Indian Weddings and Wasted Resources

The actress, who has been part of several culturally significant films, is also concerned about the erosion of traditional Indian wedding customs. She highlights how many modern weddings lack the spiritual depth and cultural reverence that they once had. “The traditional Indian touch is often missing in today’s weddings. In place of meaningful rituals, there’s an overwhelming focus on showmanship,” she says.

Another issue Mehta raises is the wastefulness often associated with lavish wedding receptions. “At many weddings, food is prepared in excess, with six-course meals, high tea, and drinks served just for show. So much of it goes to waste, which I strongly oppose,” she remarks. Instead, she advocates for more mindful celebrations with high-quality food that is well thought out and doesn’t contribute to excess.

Conclusion: Focus on Long-Term Commitment Over Short-Term Spectacle

Sujata Mehta’s reflections on the evolving nature of weddings in India serve as a reminder to focus on what truly matters in a marriage: the relationship itself. While she recognizes the appeal of grand celebrations, she believes that marriages should not be defined by a one-day event but by the enduring commitment between two individuals.

As weddings continue to become increasingly elaborate, Mehta’s message is clear: It’s time to shift the focus from the spectacle to the substance of marriage, celebrating not the wedding day, but the years that follow.